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School Refusal

School Refusal

The Harvard Mental Health Letter, published by Harvard Medical School, is reliably the best eight pages of solid information and state-of-the-art advice I know of in my field. Their advertising blurb is flat-out true:

For nearly two decades, this uniquely positioned newsletter, Harvard Mental Health Letter, has delivered information, current thinking and debate on mental health issues that concern professionals and laymen alike. In the ever-changing and complex field of mental health care, the newsletter has become a trusted source for psychiatrists, psychologists, social workers, and therapists of all kinds.

The December 2004 issue had a summary of our current understanding of children’s fears and anxieties. The article reviews the different diagnoses used to describe anxiety: generalized anxiety disorder, social anxiety disorder (also called social phobia), obsessive-compulsive disorder (which is usually considered to have its roots in anxiety), panic disorder, separation anxiety, simple phobias, and post-traumatic stress disorder. It talks about the causes of childhood anxiety (both genetic and environmental), and outlines various treatment methods.

The article comes to mind now, at the start of the school year, because of a sidebar on school refusal: reluctance to go to school, or resistance or avoidance tactics to avoid going to school. Kids may fear school, or they may fear leaving home. There may be good reason to fear things that are happening at school – like bullying. The beginning of the school year is one of the commonest times for school refusal to emerge.

If your child is resisting going to school right now, should you worry about it? As with so many of the decisions we parents get to make, this one isn’t an easy call!

Some references that may be helpful:

The standard medical / diagnostic view is essential background. Here’s
a parental information sheet from the American Family Physician, and a more technical version of the same information, designed for MDs: also from the American Family Physician – for MDs, and the language is a bit technical, but a good general review, similar to the one in the Harvard Mental Health Letter.

Here’s a link to Children Who Won’t Go To School, from the American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry.

Here’s a common sense review with a good list of possible reasons for school refusal, from the South Austrailia Children, Youth and Women’s Health Service. (Don’t you love what the Internet can give us?)

Finally, here’s a publication on the topic from The National Association of School Psychologists which may be helpful to your child’s school if they seem unsure how to be helpful.

Comments

  1. 9/19/2005 5:43 pm

    Maybe a child doesn’t want to go to school because she’s really not ready to go to school yet. There are some funny and sympathetic picturebooks by Rosemay Wells, the Edward the Unready series. Edward Unready for School is one title. I really like those books because they face up to the fact that even though school (or swimming lessons or staying overnight at someone else’s house) is great, even though the teacher is nice and the other kids are having fun, if you’re not ready, it’s no fun. That’s when it’s wonderful to have parents who understand, who don’t make a fuss or call you a failure. They listen to you and take you home, where you feel okay again.

    — Giny
  2. 10/3/2005 2:27 pm

    Sometimes there are great people at a local school, but the nature of the school just doesn’t work for a child no matter how much everyone wants to work on issues for that child. Anyone who wants to explore homeschooling should go to Jon’s Page. Jon’s Page http://www.midnightbeach.com/hs/. Jon’s Page has been around forever and has a wealth of information.

    Another very good site is http://www.independenceinstitute.org/homeschooling.aspx. It starts out with some Colorado connections, but as you scroll down, you get a lot of good resources that anyone could use for a variety of alternative education options.

    — Judy
  3. 11/3/2005 7:40 pm

    A child’s fears must always be taken seriously, until we understand them well and can work out reasonable alternatives. We have a duty to understand the source of the fear, and the sense of the choice the child makes. It is not right just to “make” a child comply with the demand to be “normal.”

    — Tom Linnell

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